“Patience is a virtue…..”~ statement by one of my clients more recently.

I have been thinking about what he said ever since and am amazed and in awe. Being an employee of a large organization where the chaos seems to run rampant has taught me many life lessons, and I would not trade them for anything. I have learned so much more from the people I serve daily than I think I have learned in my entire college career of 10 years. I am about to earn my Ph.D., and I am learning more from just living life (especially from the people that I least expected to). I’ve learned more about myself through relationships with friends, ups and downs with the dating scene, family, and now through the place I spend most of my time: WORK.

I just don’t see it as work though. I see it as a place I go to each day that I give bits and pieces of myself, and I get bits and pieces of little lessons (that’s what I call them) in return. I think these little bits and pieces I get in return make me even more whole each day. Some of the people I work with have never been given the time of day, yet I could sit and talk with them for hours and learn something that sticks with me for years. As frustrated as I may get about something that does not go my way or even when someone really just gets under my skin…..I have learned the true test of patience comes when you may be at your lowest. Or it could be when someone tells you that they wish you could walk a mile in their shoes.

For me, this is when the light bulb clicks on. You know exactly what they are talking about because you know they have had a rough/tough/hard life. Maybe I am a bit soft, but I Really Really Really admire people who are willing to just take a moment, a few minutes, just some personal time of reflection and think about how blessed they are. Being a patient in a hospital or a jail may allow for reflection, but the sad thing is it should not be the only time some people should actually do some reflecting, thinking, praying, or considering.  We are always so busy trying to catch up, get in on the latest gossip, get the bills paid, judging others, designating tasks for others to take care of, and just being plain impatient.

A few weeks ago I found myself in one of those poor pitiful me moments, and then I realized after a day or two of being consumed with thoughts and feelings that I now think were a bit immature, that I truly am blessed. I literally just got onto myself when I was in the shower one evening when I came to this realization about something I was going through and griped myself out! There are so many others out there that are going through trials that mine do not touch on….the petty day to day stuff is what I am talking about. I have been through tough stuff, but the petty stuff?????!!!! How do you determine what is petty and what is not?!?! Some things are really just not worth the the fight……the fight with yourself and the fight with the world (whoever or whatever it may be). That is when patience becomes a virtue. Patience is not something that comes naturally to any of us. We learn to be patient, we teach ourselves patience, we pray for patience, we ask for patience, we practice patience. One of my favorite quotes I came across from a great pastor that George W. Bush describes as “a kind of man who puts faith into action” is one I would like to share with my friends. T.D. Jakes once said, “Timing is so important! If you are going to be successful in dance, you must be able to respond to rhythm and timing. It’s the same in the Spirit. People who don’t understand God’s timing can become spiritually spastic, trying to make the right things happen at the wrong time. They don’t get His rhythm – and everyone can tell they are out of step. They birth things prematurely, threatening the very lives of their God-given dreams.” 

We may think we are all that, we may think everything is about us, and we may become impatient when things don’t go the way we want them to. As for me…..I am going to remember the man who expressed his thoughts on patience when talking with me at work this week. And most importantly, I am going to remember that deep down in my heart there is the unbreakable connection to my roots and faith that I’ve been brought up with. My lack of patience is because of the selfish desires on my clock and not HIS desires on HIS clock.