“Patience is a Virtue”




“Patience is a virtue…..”~ statement by one of my clients more recently.

I have been thinking about what he said ever since and am amazed and in awe. Being an employee of a large organization where the chaos seems to run rampant has taught me many life lessons, and I would not trade them for anything. I have learned so much more from the people I serve daily than I think I have learned in my entire college career of 10 years. I am about to earn my Ph.D., and I am learning more from just living life (especially from the people that I least expected to). I’ve learned more about myself through relationships with friends, ups and downs with the dating scene, family, and now through the place I spend most of my time: WORK.

I just don’t see it as work though. I see it as a place I go to each day that I give bits and pieces of myself, and I get bits and pieces of little lessons (that’s what I call them) in return. I think these little bits and pieces I get in return make me even more whole each day. Some of the people I work with have never been given the time of day, yet I could sit and talk with them for hours and learn something that sticks with me for years. As frustrated as I may get about something that does not go my way or even when someone really just gets under my skin…..I have learned the true test of patience comes when you may be at your lowest. Or it could be when someone tells you that they wish you could walk a mile in their shoes.

For me, this is when the light bulb clicks on. You know exactly what they are talking about because you know they have had a rough/tough/hard life. Maybe I am a bit soft, but I Really Really Really admire people who are willing to just take a moment, a few minutes, just some personal time of reflection and think about how blessed they are. Being a patient in a hospital or a jail may allow for reflection, but the sad thing is it should not be the only time some people should actually do some reflecting, thinking, praying, or considering.  We are always so busy trying to catch up, get in on the latest gossip, get the bills paid, judging others, designating tasks for others to take care of, and just being plain impatient.

A few weeks ago I found myself in one of those poor pitiful me moments, and then I realized after a day or two of being consumed with thoughts and feelings that I now think were a bit immature, that I truly am blessed. I literally just got onto myself when I was in the shower one evening when I came to this realization about something I was going through and griped myself out! There are so many others out there that are going through trials that mine do not touch on….the petty day to day stuff is what I am talking about. I have been through tough stuff, but the petty stuff?????!!!! How do you determine what is petty and what is not?!?! Some things are really just not worth the the fight……the fight with yourself and the fight with the world (whoever or whatever it may be). That is when patience becomes a virtue. Patience is not something that comes naturally to any of us. We learn to be patient, we teach ourselves patience, we pray for patience, we ask for patience, we practice patience. One of my favorite quotes I came across from a great pastor that George W. Bush describes as “a kind of man who puts faith into action” is one I would like to share with my friends. T.D. Jakes once said, “Timing is so important! If you are going to be successful in dance, you must be able to respond to rhythm and timing. It’s the same in the Spirit. People who don’t understand God’s timing can become spiritually spastic, trying to make the right things happen at the wrong time. They don’t get His rhythm – and everyone can tell they are out of step. They birth things prematurely, threatening the very lives of their God-given dreams.” 

We may think we are all that, we may think everything is about us, and we may become impatient when things don’t go the way we want them to. As for me…..I am going to remember the man who expressed his thoughts on patience when talking with me at work this week. And most importantly, I am going to remember that deep down in my heart there is the unbreakable connection to my roots and faith that I’ve been brought up with. My lack of patience is because of the selfish desires on my clock and not HIS desires on HIS clock.

Fresh Picks


Summer gardening was always something I looked forward to growing up. I remember my Pa having fresh okra, corn, squash, hot peppers, and tomatoes. My dad’s garden is where I have this distinct memory of walking barefoot in the hot, dry dirt. For some reason, I found that comforting. I can still smell the air, see the colors, and taste the sweetness of the fresh goodness prepared with a pan of cornbread, butter, and pinto beans. That was the life…..

I still eat like I did back then and enjoy just experimenting with how I can enhance the flavor of my wine with something really fresh and crisp. More recently, I brought a carrot soufflé to Easter dinner which was a great hit. No one had heard of carrot soufflé but I enjoyed working with Peter Rabbit in the kitchen the night before. While baking my soufflé, I decided to make something new out of one food that has become a staple in my diet: Spinach. Either alone or paired with a piece of blackened salmon, grilled tilapia, or even a side to a burger, this spinach recipe is great!

3 tbs. olive oil
2 tbs. minced garlic
1 cup of halved grape tomatoes
1 small jalapeno, chopped
Fresh Spinach
Grated Parmesan Cheese

In a sauté pan add olive oil and garlic, tomatoes. After sautéing about two minutes, enough for garlic to start smelling good, fill the pan with fresh spinach. Remember a lot of spinach is necessary because it cooks down quickly. Cook just long enough for the spinach to wilt and blend well with the rest. Top with fresh grated parmesan cheese and enjoy! If you do not have grape tomatoes, a can of chopped tomatoes and green chilies works well too.

Soulful Beauty


Beauty is in the eye of the BEHOLDER….but who is really your beholder? One of my favorite quotes sums up what I really want my message to imply,

“…true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.”~ Audrey Hepburn

I recently read an article about a famous model who wanted to begin putting covers on magazines such as Cosmo and Glamour at the magazine stands. You know….the ones you typically see at Wal-Mart when you are standing in line sweating, ticked off at yourself for even coming into the store in the first place, and out of breath from holding back the need to light a fire under the yahoos who brought a family/extended family of nine for their monthly outing.   I will be the first to admit that I pick up one of those magazines occasionally, but I also wonder what I actually find appealing about the sex appeal, latest exercises to enhance my derriere, ‘what guys really like’, and what is really in the makeup I use. I get home and thumb through the pages only to find out that I really did not know anything after all. Then I feel like I have a whole lotta work to do….maybe even within myself. I also wonder what the ten year old standing in line behind me was planning to do with her latest issue of Seventeen or Cosmo. Did she think she was too fat? Did she think she needed to buy that super lustrous lip gloss, or did she think that “being sexy” would be the way to find true happiness?I remember  my teens, my 20’s, and now that I am approaching the BIG 33, I have finally realized after purchasing magazines of this sort that true beauty really comes from within. Of course I do wear the latest trends, love my matching bangles and Merle Norman Miracol face mask, but at the end of the day it really boils down to how I truly feel about myself and my inner beauty. That’s what really counts. We reveal who we are by “WHO” we are. With Mother’s Day approaching, I have to reflect upon how my mother set an example for me and how beautiful she really is. I may have thought the advice she gave me at 17 (when I knew everything) did not apply to me. Although, I was the only one who knew that I was really masking a self-esteem that left me questioning my true beauty with an outward appearance and attitude as if I knew everything at that age. I now have a few of my favorite verses that I find lead me in my walk as a woman of beauty in the eye of “MY” beholder.

1 Peter 3:4 But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

Psalm 34:5 Those who look to him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed.

Proverbs 3:15-18 She is more precious that jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her. Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace. She is a tree of life to those who lay hold of her; those who hold her fast are called blessed.

1 Peter 3:3-4 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

Song of Solomon 4:7 You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.